On this week's episode of The Wednesday Call podcast, Andy Albright explains how you can instill enthusiasm, love and commitment into any person instantly.
Grab a notepad and pen and get ready to listen and learn!
The easiest thing in the world to do is to go ahead and commit. Decide that you are going to do whatever it is you are already thinking about. You do it because it is exactly what you want other people to do too.
Enthusiastic people live from the inside out. Winners have this crazy enthusiasm about them that is contagious.
Love trumps all. Love has eyes and it can see you. It also has eyelids, and people that love have an ability to not see the bad and focus on seeing the good in people. Stop all the negative stuff. Humans have a massive capacity for love. People also have a huge need for love.
How do you help people find that in themselves? You have to look for them and help them find out that they have the ability to commit, to be enthusiastic and to love inside of them. We just have to help them bring it out and share it with the world.
The first step is for you to be that way yourself. You will attract what you are. People will see your actions and decide if they are pulled toward you or they run from you.
You can start working on this by adjusting your words. Andy calls this the “True … but” method. People that say things like: The goal is too far away, It seems really impossible for me, I’m too messed up to fix, etc.
Avoid this by doing one small thing you weren’t doing before. It can be as simple as writing down your schedule, making a phone call to a person you need to talk to or knocking out a chore that needs to be done.
Keep doing one thing at a time. Start adding more things. Do this consistently. Before you realize it, you are getting a lot done. It all adds up. Remember this: one is always greater than zero. Don’t think about a million things when you aren’t doing one thing first! Success is built one “boring” brick by brick at a time. You don’t build a wall in one quick step.
Andy shared a story of two businessmen meeting in hopes of working out a deal. One man tells the other he is excited and glad that things are falling into place. He says I’m looking forward to working with you and I need you to hold up your end of the bargain because I’m going to do so.
If you don’t hold up your end of the deal, then I’m going to come down hard on you and mirror your behavior or even worse. We will operate by the Golden Rule, does that work for you?
The other man quickly responded, “I’m out! I can’t do this. I’m done.”
Now, this was a fair deal. But, the one man couldn’t handle it. Now, the whole relationship is messed up.
What if the one man said, “How about we do more than fair? What if I’m off my game, then you pick up the slack and help us get through it? Let’s do that for each other, OK?”
What if both men agreed to that and overlooked minor setbacks so the relationship is still good. What if they both just said we will go above and beyond for each other when it is needed.
There is fault in fairness. If one person messes up, then both people are messed up because of the agreement. The relationship falls apart.
The second deal where you pick up each other’s slack is a better deal. Nobody is perfect, so the fair deal will lead to deterioration of the relationship. You’ve got to cut out the sarcasm because it will to bad things.
If you aren’t willing to overlook imperfections, it is going to be very hard to win. Two slackers can’t win together. Sarcasm leads to more sarcasm. Meanness leads to more meanness. It becomes a disaster. When people aren’t willing to rise above mistakes and junk it is not good. Revenge, wrath and anger are not good when people get together. It destroys business and relationships every single day.
Don’t treat evil with evil, rather overcome evil with good. Stop trying to keep score when it comes to your relationships with people. Even if you are ahead on the scoreboard, you will find that you have still lost. You can run up the score, but don’t point out the score to your opponents.
Follow the Law of Love. If you are not given to, give to others. If you are not loved, love on somebody. If nobody is helping a person, you help them. Be a change agent for the good. That is how you win big. You cannot lose doing that. Be willing to give like crazy even if you aren’t sure it will be reciprocated.
How do we do this?
Get rid of your anger. Don’t confuse emotion and passion with anger and disgust. Don’t get mad at people. You can’t ignore it all together and you don’t need to try to engage in revenge either. The right way to handle the situation is by telling them that you love them and you want to help them fix a problem. If they don’t make an adjustment, you don’t give up on them. Ask them how you can help correct the problem. Do your best to address it and help them get through the problem.
Get over your own needs. Operate from a servant’s standpoint and not from a selfish state. Be a giver, not a getter. Stop trying to play the fair game with people. The greatest gift you were given was being born. Now that you got that gift, it is time for you to give to others. Help other people succeed at what they care about.
Ask how you contributed to the problem. Show that you care. Ask the person where you messed up. Don’t assign the blame to others without shouldering your share of the blame. Life is a “give game.” The most successful people in the world will tell you that and it is the truth.
Give the opposite of what the other person is trying to do to you. If they are critical, you be encouraging. If they are mad, you be happy.
Let’s not play fair. Let’s just play right. Let’s run up the score. Give more in everything we do. It will mess people up in a powerful way. They want know how to react. You plant the seeds of good even if others are planting junk you don’t want!
Start with one thing and keep moving. That’s how you create momentum. Start with one tasks and keep building on that momentum.
Start working ways that you can reach a new emotional level in everything you do so that you are a giver to other people.